Why is it so hard to be confident in our identity? Ultimately our identity is found in Christ.
2 Corinthians 5:17
New International Version (NIV) 17 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! Yet, even so, it’s so hard to know who we are and to be confident in that. I am a people watcher. I love to study people, their mannerisms, facial expressions, body language, and even listen to them talk to other people. People are fascinating! I think that because I am always on the look-out for what seems out of place I notice small changes in people that maybe others don’t see.
PEOPLE WATCHING USED TO HAVE TO BE IN PERSON…
I have been a people watcher for as long as I can remember. I recall going to the mall with my mom and the two of us just choosing a bench, taking a seat and watching. We would point out interesting things about people to one another and talk about things that we noticed. Nowadays you don’t even have to be in person anymore. We can people watch on all sorts of social media platforms. Twitter seems to be my favorite for noticing differences in people. I believe it is because you don’t have to be brave enough to type things on Twitter necessarily. You just have to be brave enough to re-tweet someone else’s writing. It’s the click of a button. 1 second of bravery/stupidity depending on how you look it.
THIS IS A PROBLEM…
The thing is that as Christians we are called to be the “light”. To shine Christ’s love for all to see. John 8:12New International Version (NIV) 12 When Jesus spoke again to the people, he said, “I am the light of the world.Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” A lot of us are really good at doing that, in person! Then we get home, plop on our beds, sit down with our phones or whatever your device of choice may be. We then make a lot of silly choices that we think don’t make a difference, but they do. I try to remind myself and the teens that I work with that we are supporting what we post. We are supporting what we wear, the things that we say, the pictures that we take. We are still one person whether we act the same on social media as we do in person or not.
Who are your followers
Stop for a moment and think about who your followers are on social media. Are they other members of your church, kids who look up to you, your children possibly? Whatever you tweet out or retweet, whatever you post on Facebook or whatever pics are on Instagram are seen by all those people. Do you have fake accounts, hidden accounts, accounts with different names, or a finsta? Why? The only purpose that I can think of for this is so that you can still post things that you don’t want EVERYONE to see and just invite a select few or more. There shouldn’t be any reason for an account that not everyone can follow because you shouldn’t be posting things that you would be ashamed of if your loved ones saw it. Can I please send out a reminder at this moment: GOD SEES EVERYTHING!
Psalm 139:1-6The Message (MSG) 139 1-6 God, investigate my life; get all the facts firsthand. I’m an open book to you; even from a distance, you know what I’m thinking. You know when I leave and when I get back; I’m never out of your sight. You know everything I’m going to say before I start the first sentence. I look behind me and you’re there, then up ahead and you’re there, too—your reassuring presence, coming and going. This is too much, too wonderful— I can’t take it all in!
WOULDN’T IT BE EASIER TO HAVE JUST 1 IDENTITY?
Surprise! We do! We have one identity and that identity is who we are in Christ our Savior. You are a son or a daughter of God, that is who you are. You are a child of Christ no matter which version of yourself you are letting people see. I am going to encourage you to be just this one version of yourself. Please be the version that respects yourself. You are much too important to be wearing clothes that expose what should be saved for your husband’s ladies. Guys, make yourselves look respectable. The logos on your clothes show people who and what you support. Pay attention to that. Respect others. This doesn’t mean you have to like everybody or be friends with everybody, but try and remind yourself that God loves that person just as much as he loves you.
Choose wisely what you are posting to social media, don’t send nudes, or be one person at the church on Sunday and Wednesday and then someone else Monday-Friday. You were created in the image of God, you were wonderfully and beautifully made. You are a prince or princess of the Kingdom and you are a person with a God given purpose. Ephesians 2:10- 10 For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. When you are struggling to make a decision or choice, ask yourself if God will be glorified. Ask yourself if your choice could cause harm to yourself or others. Ask yourself if you would want one of your siblings (whom you love so much) to be dressing, tweeting or acting the same way.
WE DON’T HAVE TO BE PERFECT…
As you are discovering who you are in the identity that Christ has given you remember that we aren’t called to be perfect. We are all going to make mistakes, every day. You are not condemned for your mistakes. We have the privilege of confessing our sins and being forgiven. We have the opportunity to be made new every day. All God is asking of us is that we believe in Jesus. That we believe he came in human form, died and rose again for our salvation. As Christians who are striving to live a life in the fullness of Christ’s identity that should be our goal. We should always be working on getting to know Christ better so that we can know how to be more like him. You are loved, just the way that you are!
Romans 5:8 ESV But God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Now, go out into the world, work to be Christ-like. Give yourself the grace that God gives when you make mistake. As you are working on theses things, go out and be YOU. The one true and only you every day of the week. Sunday at church, Monday-Friday at school or work and on Saturday when you are having a good time hanging out with friends! Just be one YOU so that when I meet you on Sunday and then see you again the next Saturday you aren’t hard to recognize!!!